separation Archive

  • The Capacity to Love

    The Capacity to Love

    During the last few weeks, my life seemed impossible.  I was grumpy and sour.  If life is equal to capacity...
  • I Hope You Dance

    I Hope You Dance

    I found a book in an old box that made me realize what the last three years of my life...
  • From Suffering to Energy without Effort

    From Suffering to Energy without Effort

    A table of observations on how specific emotions transform automatically into blissful energy.
  • Why the Heart Closes

    Why the Heart Closes

    Apathy often has its roots in the odd, unexpected body memory of prior pain that is evoked by new love.
  • Empowering Comfort

    Empowering Comfort

    How to identify healthy forms of emotional support and healers that are empowering rather than disempowering.
  • Why Confront Your Demons?

    Why Confront Your Demons?

    An integration of Zen emptiness with New Age form offers one approach to healing our collective samsara.
  • Spring in the Dead of Winter

    Spring in the Dead of Winter

    In this frozen moment, your warm consciousness finds all existence waiting.
  • Keeping Enlightenment at Bay

    Keeping Enlightenment at Bay

    Take a breath.  Feel the air enter your body.  Embrace every sensation, thought, and emotion coursing through you in this...
  • Find Love and Give It All Away

    Find Love and Give It All Away

    What happens when we treasure someone too much? A story of discovering the divine by crushing illusions.
  • Five Phases of Transformation

    Five Phases of Transformation

    I am being reassembled.  The process is unmistakeable.  It’s not over yet, but I feel myself entering a final phase,...
  • Drug Your Emotions Away

    Drug Your Emotions Away

    Can we use drugs to numb our emotional pain without losing our souls?
  • Cut Off: The Role of Compassion in Social Death

    Cut Off: The Role of Compassion in Social Death

    Among the most excruciating suffering one can endure is social death. Where does compassion fit in?
  • Transforming Rejection Sensitivity

    Transforming Rejection Sensitivity

    In an era of waning social ties, sensitivity to rejection is common. An article in Psychology Today offers solutions.
  • Breathing Under Water

    Breathing Under Water

    Reaching out for help can inadvertently foster the collective perception that we are all struggling to save ourselves.
  • Ode to a Chick Flick

    Ode to a Chick Flick

    I have watched the movie You’ve Got Mail every week for two months.  One might think I find it appealing...
  • Where Did They Go?

    Where Did They Go?

    I want to contact that which is real in others, but the meeting of minds never lasts.  The souls who...
  • What You’ll Find Here

    What You’ll Find Here

    Regular stories and reflections from my journey through this communal reality as I follow the path of the waking heart....
  • The Veil of Total Darkness

    The Veil of Total Darkness

    Being in total darkness recently took on new meaning for me.  Rock bottom is not necessarily a bad place to...
  • Strange Loops

    Strange Loops

    In his book, I Am a Strange Loop, Douglas Hofstadter proposes that the essence or soul of a person can...
  • Egoless Compassion

    Egoless Compassion

    A meditation designed to cultivate compassion that is free from selfish motivations.  Especially useful for having compassion for those who...
  • The Outskirts of Compassion

    The Outskirts of Compassion

    Why it feels so impossible to have compassion for those who cause injury or evoke repulsion and how to reconcile...
  • Philosophy

    Philosophy

    We begin with a belief in separation, and we think oneness is the illusion.  One day we realize we have...
  • Nothing to Protect

    Nothing to Protect

    Keep your heart open when you want to close it, and you will find that the heart needs no shielding.