grief Archive

  • I Hope You Dance

    I Hope You Dance

    I found a book in an old box that made me realize what the last three years of my life...
  • Dissolving the Past

    Dissolving the Past

    Your body carries a record of your past experiences, some deep and old and intense, but the past no longer...
  • Love Like You Cannot Imagine

    Love Like You Cannot Imagine

    In Tibet, they believe that it is possible to foresee, at the beginning of a relationship, how it will...
  • A Taste of Love to Order the Feast

    A Taste of Love to Order the Feast

    You cannot ask the universe for something if you cannot conceive of it.  In November of last year,...
  • Transmutation on the Precipice of Unknowing

    Transmutation on the Precipice of Unknowing

    Watching unpleasant emotions quickly turn into raw energy, the key seems to be seeing through concepts.
  • Full Circle

    Full Circle

    A chance to be burdened makes it possible to see the immense love that surrounds those who suffer.
  • The Perfect Face

    The Perfect Face

    Amid memories of disappointing a former love, a prayer for a more beautiful face is answered in minutes.
  • All Good Things

    All Good Things

    A short story about the perpetuation of friendship in the face of grief and impermanence.
  • The Ultimate Psychic Boundary

    The Ultimate Psychic Boundary

    The notion of psychic boundaries reminds me of the boy who lived his life in a bubble.  Protection is lovely,...
  • Tracing a Path from Buried Pain to Love

    Tracing a Path from Buried Pain to Love

    If you ask for healing, watch your thoughts. Sometimes the divine speaks with our own inner voice.
  • She Washed His Feet With Her Tears

    She Washed His Feet With Her Tears

    Forgiveness and redemption are healing, but you can still find wholeness even when others cannot offer it.
  • Why the Heart Closes

    Why the Heart Closes

    Apathy often has its roots in the odd, unexpected body memory of prior pain that is evoked by new love.
  • Our Sacred Dust

    Our Sacred Dust

    Today I felt my Beloved in the soil under my feet and in the bark on the trees.
  • Real Lovers Serve in Ecstasy

    Real Lovers Serve in Ecstasy

    Periods of strain can erode your strength and test your faith in life, but there are ways to approach them...
  • Never Cutting the Cord of Compassion

    Never Cutting the Cord of Compassion

    Sunday morning I woke up contemplating the process of grief.  Thoughts of former loves constantly fill my mind.  When I...
  • Blissful Just As Things Are

    Blissful Just As Things Are

    Today, I stopped praying for things to get easier.  It just occurred to me that it wasn’t necessary.  For many...
  • Why Confront Your Demons?

    Why Confront Your Demons?

    An integration of Zen emptiness with New Age form offers one approach to healing our collective samsara.
  • You Are Brand New

    You Are Brand New

    If you are beset by a negative self-image, especially one that is self-fulfilling and reflected back to you by others...
  • Now What?

    Now What?

    What would you do if your lifelong search for wholeness finally reached the finish line?  If the problems you devoted...
  • Still Luminous

    Still Luminous

    Last night, I was awake all night, while sleeping, enjoying another one of those full nights resting in clear, lucid,...
  • A Long Awaited Apology

    A Long Awaited Apology

    There comes a time when the dark forces in your life step into the light, remove their masks, and reveal...
  • Trusting that You Are Loved

    Trusting that You Are Loved

    When peace and tranquility, bliss even, begins to fill most every moment, healing feels complete.  These past few weeks, I’ve...
  • Karma Is Love

    Karma Is Love

    Rather than an eye for an eye, karma can be seen as an act of love.
  • A Boogie with Sole

    A Boogie with Sole

    For nearly a year, twice every month, I attended an event in town known as the Barefoot Boogie.  Set in...
  • Warmth in the Cold

    Warmth in the Cold

    Who do we turn to in times of need? Reflections on loss return me, somehow, to a state of bliss.
  • Out with a Swirl

    Out with a Swirl

    Can one respond to suffering the way a cat responds to falling off a roof?  While meditating one night recently,...
  • Drug Your Emotions Away

    Drug Your Emotions Away

    Can we use drugs to numb our emotional pain without losing our souls?
  • Cut Off, Part II

    Cut Off, Part II

    The function of compassion for those who feel cut off is to return them to the whole. This is not...
  • Cut Off: The Role of Compassion in Social Death

    Cut Off: The Role of Compassion in Social Death

    Among the most excruciating suffering one can endure is social death. Where does compassion fit in?
  • Breathing Under Water

    Breathing Under Water

    Reaching out for help can inadvertently foster the collective perception that we are all struggling to save ourselves.
  • Uncoiling the Downward Spiral

    Uncoiling the Downward Spiral

    Certain needs tend to evoke emotional responses that make the situation worse in a way that aggravates the need, which...
  • Where Did They Go?

    Where Did They Go?

    I want to contact that which is real in others, but the meeting of minds never lasts.  The souls who...
  • Not Enough to Be Numb

    Not Enough to Be Numb

    When weeks of grief and turmoil are broken by a neutral calm, the relief is welcome, but the journey is...
  • Strange Loops

    Strange Loops

    In his book, I Am a Strange Loop, Douglas Hofstadter proposes that the essence or soul of a person can...
  • Abandoning Loose Ends

    Abandoning Loose Ends

    Some relationships end with a clean break, and others end slowly, the way a garden reaches its final days. ...
  • Ways of Love

    Ways of Love

    The ways of love include silence and solitude, parting and disharmony–so deep its trust in the core of light within...
  • Meditations

    Meditations

    Following is a list of the specific meditation practices that have worked well for me in the past.  In particular,...
  • Evening Soulitude

    Evening Soulitude

    Finding the three things that heal loneliness (sensual connection, conversation, and communion) during an evening of solitude.
  • At War with Depression

    At War with Depression

    You may have won many battles with depression. Why can’t you win the war? A new way to...
  • Philosophy

    Philosophy

    We begin with a belief in separation, and we think oneness is the illusion.  One day we realize we have...